A Bit on Relationships

(Thought=Random)

Excerpts from articles published in
www.prokerala.com/relationships/

Relationships like marriage, romance,  or any of similar kinds can be sustained with a happy note if some of the secret rules are followed. Relationship is completely subjective and no clear cut rules can be executed  regarding it, yet following certain guidelines may help  happily in a relationship.
Many of these, so called, rules are based on the life experience of many happy couples and also on the observation of people. When two people get into a relationship, many of them wish for it to last. Pathetically, however, a good number of them go apart after a while, in search of new partners. But there are secrets that constitute long lasting relationships or ever remaining relationships.

There are no perfect relationships, only perfect situations. The happiness in a relationship is just the happiness of the situations created by the partners. No relationship, as a whole, is destined to be entirely jovial and satisfying. There can be moments of happiness and moments of struggles.
The couple who learns the secrets of balancing both happiness and struggles  enjoys the best possible relationship in life. When in tension or when in the middle of issues, many people may think that they are fated to fall in to a wrong relationship, and at the same time ignore the possible chances of making each moment in life happy by understanding the partner a bit more and making adjustments a bit more

Another secret of happy relationship lies in being open and frank with the partner. Do not feel afraid to express you mind to the partner and never ever make him/her afraid of you expressing your mind. When people communicate to each other, many of the issues can be solved. An issue, no matter how apparently insignificant it is, when kept in the mind for several days, can take forms of anger, frustration, dislike etc., and get expressed in the most undesirable manner. Let the communication between the partners be a frequent element and no one should hold the words when he/she really wants to talk.

You must tell your partner that you love him or her even if one can never express the love as it is. There is no emotion as intense as  love, and it comes as a package which includes, respect, care, sharing, dedication, forgiveness and many more of the good things.  You have to express the emotion whenever possible to make the other person feel the intensity of your love. Let your love be unconditional. It is rightly said that love is simply defined as respect and thoughtfulness. Let your partner always feel that you do care for him/her and that you do give him/her  due respect.

Never ever leave your partner not recognizing your support. Whatever the opinions and ideas,  you are the only one important being he/she can lean on for support. When both of you are alone and by yourselves, you can argue  on points you disagree on, but in public both of you have to have only one mind. Holding  hands, especially when the other is sad or broken, is helpful to convey the care you have for each other.  Thus, once you have decided to live together, there can be no thoughts of separation at all.